The best truth you never had

This is the song that started it all, and the 3rd installment of the BEYONCE SERIES. The reason it is the beginning of the whole process of analzing the album is because I follow one of the albums producers and I heard so much praise about this song. 

SO WHAT OF THE PRODUCTION...
There is a nice piano melody and it sounds almost like a live band as opposed to the product of a production kit.  It gives you the feeling of triumph and that you can survive and move on with hope.  Or maybe that's just the Lyrics?

I WOULD ADVISE BROTHAS TO STEER CLEAR OF THE VIDEO...THAT GIRL B IS ALL LINGERIED UP AND TEMPTING FOR A GOOD PORTION OF THE VIDEO.

The song is about when you find out the real person beneath the front most people put up when they 1st meet someone.  You know we 1st meet someone, we are always on our best behavior, in our "impress mode" and all swaggered up like a peacock.  Eventually we let our guard down as the relationship grows.  People can only hold up a front for so long, then the desires that enslave them pull the realness out of their character.  We all go through this stage in relationships, so is this why many connect to this song?

The song reminds me of the warning in the Song of Solomon about GUARDING YOUR HEART, and a saying I've recently heard; "when someone tells you who they are, believe them!"

I always tell the young ladies in high school to allow time to uncover the lies before they give up too much to someone.  They should be waiting on marrige anyway.

TIME AND TRUTH GO HAND IN HAND.

Its sad how many teens feel they cannot do without sex for a short period of time.  They end up HAVING a lot of the worst "things" unlike how the song says.  Do the lyrics mean she didn't sleep with the guy?  I hope so, but as 2 Timothy says,"men will be lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God."  Which begs the questions...what does she mean by "never had?" I just pray that as many of you ladies connect with this song, that you are keeping yourselves for that right person...fellas too.  What use is reliving past people you had to let go while singing "THE BEST THING I NEVER HAD" but they actually "had" you....multiple times even?

THERE SHOULD BE MORE THINGS YOU NEVER HAD, THAN THINGS YOU HAVE HAD.

RATINGS
THE SONG IS RECYCLABLE (slight changes would improve)
@Children: should not even listen to this song, not just because of the use of a cuss word
@Teens: could identify with the song, best you sit and have a conversation with a mature adult.
@Adults: great song to have some real deep talks with those you love
@EVERYONE (including me) THINK OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO SIN WHEN YOU HEAR THIS.

1 + 1 = _______

Love has many adverbs (from Unozip)

"If I ain't got nothing I got you
If I ain't got something I don't give a ____ cause I got it with you
I don't know much about algebra, but 1 plus 1 equals 2
And its me and you...that's all well have when the world is through
Cause baby we ain't got nothing without love
Darling you got enough for the both of us.
So c'mon baby, make love to me"
- 1+1 sang by Beyonce'

Ok, where to begin.  1st it seems like a great love song, I mean nothing says "I love you" like "you are the only possession that matters to me."  Almost taken straight from the pages of the marriage vows, at least from the spirit of it. Then it seems to borrow from the old soulful love songs with some "I don't know much about..." love analogy that you may be familiar with.

Ex: "I don't know much about history....but I know that I love you, and I know if you love me to WHAT A WONDERFUL WORLD IT WOULD BE!"

The chorus repeats "make love to me, ohh baby make love to me!"  Which is what I want to focus on.  This is actually more of a Marvin Gaye song, than a ballad of love.  That's wonderful for those married, not so much for those who aren't.  Countless example in your own surroundings tell you that healing is not a most common byproduct of sex, largely because everyone is having it and they seem to complain a lot.  There is even the idea that when someone is frustrated, they just need some good sex and that will make them feel better.  As with most physical pleasure, that sort or thinking is like putting a band-aid on gunshot wound or only taking aspirin when your appendix ruptures.

Also consider the whole idea that "making love" is an upgraded version of sex where the same motions are bolstered by a mental and emotional affinity that transcends simple physical pleasure. That is a topic all in itself, just know that love occurs outside of physical intimacy.  In actuality, physical intimacy is strengthened by the bonds of love, but sex is not love.

You MAKE LOVE when you DO the selfless sacrificial things that encourage, nurture, build up, help, or simply brings happiness to the other person.  At the same time, it also does only that which is to the best benefit of the other person, even if happiness is sacrificed in the process.

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GOD IS LOVE...
                                                GOD = LOVE...
                   Sex is not God....                           sex is not love...
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Love is an action, a verb.  All types of love do not involve sex, just as all types of sex do not involve love.  I suppose this song represents the intimacy of love, but many will listen and perpetuate the flawed thoughts I just discussed. 

The melody is hypnotically good, and the desperation she conveys when its sung will drive many to a reckless reminiscence of past relationships ("loves") lost, or even lock them further into current unwise relationships.  Sadly there thoughts stuck in fantasy worlds that don't involve God, or even a spouse.  Many will be to mesmerized by her talent to notice these pulls.
Sure you could be thinking about a spouse while listening, I wouldn't frown on married people jamming the track, in each others arms sharing unending devotion to each other regardless of outside circumstance.  I just feel that would be a small statistic.

OVERALL
This track isn't trash, but it is RECYCLABLE.
I would not recommend you let children under 16 listen to it.
I would say this song is only for those married.
I recommend you read "THE 4 LOVES" by C. S. Lewis.

THERE IS A BAN ON THE FIRE WORKS

From LaredoBuzz.com

So in Houston there is a ban on fire works(pray for the venders because they are losing much needed income in a relatively low economy).  I am also watching this movie called "Our Family Wedding" which features Forest Whitaker.  Its an interesting movie about the stupid racist tendencies between blacks and Hispanics(ever see "Black In Latin America).  One of the other currents of thought is many of the negative side effects of getting married.  This is a common theme in ironically named "romantic/love" movies, which are usually about people who have lost the spark in their relationships and somehow find it again.

The realness is simply this, we don't know how to love.

There seems to be a ban on the fireworks.

The big issue is that most of us....all of us have it all wrong.  THAT LOVE THING...we have it all wrong.  Those who have the best relationships say the same thing when given the chance.  "That I love my (spouse) more today than I did the 1st time I loved her."  THAT'S WHAT IT'S ABOUT.  Learning to love each other more and more and more.

Our communities should be one huge web of love. 

Since we don't know how to love and we all are aware that NO ONE IS PERFECT, we should in turn be able to allow love to gradually have its perfect work in us...through patience.


This can only be done through the HOLY SPIRIT which has been compared to an inner fire that dwells within a man given over to GOD, the consuming fire. People even relate love to fire, we have just forgotten the nature of that fire.


If we allow the fire to work in us we will love more and lift the ban, the ban on the FIREWORKS.